The MemberList() function which apparently looks at all of the endpoints
was blocking right after a member exited, because we still had a stale
list of endpoints, and while a member that exited safely would update
the endpoints lists, the other member would (unavoidably) race to get
that message, and so it might call the MemberList() with the now stale
endpoint list. This way we invalidate an endpoint we know to be gone
immediately.
This also adds a simple test case to catch this scenario.
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